So far, I made a couple of entries on information, what’s relayed, by who, and about the consideration of conducting oneself. One’s character.
Months ago, I saw something that made me irate, but more so, I became impressed by the aftermath.
This is Doggie Simmer Talk.
Who is deserving of online abuse and why?
Not sure what I would call her. She’s not my “friend” even though I’d secretly like her to be (did I say “secret”?). I’ll keep it anonymous. Let’s call her “Lady M”, like Mikumo from Macross.
She’s “young” and talented with the big sister title.
Popularity could be synonymous to “knowing thoroughly what he/she does”. Whether it is broadcasting, which I always loved, culinary, writing, or singing.
But I respect her. This Lady M. I don’t like the idea of someone being put under another due to popularity. However, if it weren’t for popularity, some wouldn’t follow in “Lady M’s” footsteps. Some people, notable names even, aspire to be her or work with her.
M seemed to have be accused for “self-promotion”. In other words, an unworthy human being; maybe a washout even? There is a gap within the “popularity level”. Also, she might’eve been called bad names and was frequently disparaged.
Why was such hatred received?
Jealously? A thrill? A deceptive truth?
Lady M was being susceptible to abuse for some time. It is perhaps the reason why she’s been fickle and upset over “her words”. Grieving over it as if she received some attacks that most could not see. One point she put her foot down and revealed this abuse.
“That is not my intention”.
“Those words, do not send them to another woman aside from myself!”
It is possible that she “isn’t nice“. Who isn’t rash and who doesn’t get angry and say a harsh thing? Especially on social media? However, so far, from my own impression, M is pretty accepting to a follower or a random stranger, easily inspired, and does not say a cruel thing. People who have worked with her has stated the same thing: “Heart is nice”, “big-hearted”, “nice big sister”, relatively the same.
They describe her as “温かい” (atatakai) and “大らか” (ooraka; generous). This is a reply to someone who said that M “seemed scary”:
“Huh?! She’s tender.
Voice is strong, and so is the character’s image. [The character is strong too]
A blunt person, however, has a warm heart.”
From my POV, M does say many strange phrases (ie: “A man holding a purse is odd” or along those lines) but often apologizes for it. The “blunt person” part may be true after all. It’s not entirely the abuse. M always says “Sorry u(_-_)u” for an awkward phrase. Those who receive scathing words are usually those who dedicate their time and their actions to being negative to others. Take politicians for example.
So far, she hasn’t said anything personal or political, and often praises/thanks others, commenting that she is “healed by gentle words”.
For those who witnessed the abuse was quite supportive, and M thanked them.
– Doggie Thoughts –
I’ve seen this before, the belittlement of someone being “not popular enough”. An actor could retire for not receiving enough roles, let alone main roles, as it is a demanding, competitive, and wide industry, and someone could leave a comment such as “I don’t know you, so good for you” or “Great”.
For Lady M personally, it is extreme ignorance. There can be more said, but that is all.
To quote www.nyfa.edu: “you need to survive physically and mentally.”
Also, do not quit. After so many years, Lady M has not quit. Don’t think of yourself as useless and don’t let anyone else say so. And if you’re wrong, be humble and reflect on the mistake/words.